I would say the saying “money is the root of all evil” is actually not that far off. I am sure a fairly large percentage of crimes committed are committed because of money. We have been programmed into think our happiness and our self worth can be measured in our bank balance and our possessions.
It’s a bit sad when you think about it – because, of course, there is a ring of truth in it. If I had no money and no possessions I would not be a happy camper, especially as I would be working right now and not sitting on my butt watching Wimbeldon! So you do want some money.
But is it a case of the more you have, the happier you are? Well, it’s certainly not guaranteed – many, many wealthy people have committed suicide – the latest being Robin Williams. Very sad, one of my favourite comedies is his Mrs Doubtfire. And although I do not make a habit of reading about the rich and the famous, I get the impression that at best, their lives are pretty much the same as us normal folks – but just with bigger houses, flashier cars and more OTT parties.
I think I became happier when I broke the money equals happiness line of reasoning. I remember doing it when I was deciding to retire early on what most would call, very little. Up and till then, I, like most people, ranked myself against my friends in the big Net Worth Cup. On the whole I did well in the assets stakes, but not so well in the salary bracket. TBF, that hasn’t, and probably won’t change for quite a while.
But retire early meant I was NEVER going to compete salary wise, unless of course, I became a famous author or artist. Yes, you can wipe the coffee of the screen now. But you see, even when I say I am completely fine without having money, my brain still likes to work out how, if the planets aligned just so, I possible could become wealthy. Eish, us humans hey?
Anyway, I have stopped equating money equals happiness and self worth – and it’s great. Once you stop feeling that you need money to be happy, it’s like a hidden door opens up and you start to notice all the free things that bring a smile to your face. So when earlier in the day, I had my afternoon nap in a winter sun beam that was streaming through the bedroom window with my two dogs beside me, I truly did feel like the happiest man on earth.
For me, I also need to feel self worth to go with my happiness. And do you really need a large bank balance for you to feel self worth? Once again, once money is removed, lot’s of jobs can bring immense contentment and feelings of self worth. I am still proud of completing a tricky bike repair I did months ago. But it could also be finishing that online course, tackling a new recipe or painting the bathroom.
If I had more money, I would spend it – do not get me wrong – I can always find something to spend a couple of bucks on. Mainly on travel and experiences, but I could always find room for another motor bike, and a couple more toys for the workshop. But I do realise they are non essential wants – and already have tons of those – many of which are not really being used as is.
I have lost that need to buy items to show off to my friends and show the world my worth and importance – it would eat into my afternoon siesta time.